“Gratitude is not only the greatest of virtues, but the parent of all others.” – Cicero (106 BC – 43 BC), ‘Pro Plancio,’ 54 B.C.

Research shows (see articles by Martin Seligman, Robert Emmons, and on this website) that the best predictor of “happiness” and life satisfaction is the degree of gratitude experienced and expressed by the individual.  In other words, to begin to raise your life satisfaction, be thankful for the good things already in your life!

I’ve given talks to crowds large and small, in school, corporations and even in prisons, and I’ve found that the audiences have a common denominator (several, really).  People are fascinated when they hear about the difference that simple gratitude can make in one’s life.  Just to illustrate the research that has been done in this area, it has been shown that life satisfaction increases (as measured on a psychological test) over the course of as little as six weeks, if a person takes just a few minutes each week to write down the good things that have happened during that 7-day period. Ironically, the research shows that doing this one night a week was more beneficial than doing this three nights a week. (In a future article I will address the research by on how life satisfaction efforts must be a good fit for each individual). (more…)

“Many persons have a wrong idea of what constitutes true happiness. It is not attained through self-gratification but through fidelity to a worthy purpose.” – Helen Keller (1880 – 1968)

In recent months articles on happiness are everywhere.  We see optimism and happiness, and life satisfaction mentioned in every publication from those on psychology to the magazines on gardening.  The tone of these articles suggests that we should be pursuing happiness full time, and that anyone experiencing sadness or grief is simply not trying hard enough.

A life of happiness and satisfaction is one built upon meaning, not pie-in-the-sky Pollyanna thoughts, and we should expect that some life experiences will be challenging, difficult, even sad or very hurtful.  At no time should it be imagined that a life of happiness and satisfaction would carry no grief or sadness, because that would be completely untrue.  To have meaning, life must be valued; I think we would all agree to that.  So it follows that in times of loss of life, loss of treasured relationships or when devastation (earthquake, fire, floods) strikes us, we may very well experience shock, sadness or grief.  If we have practiced the skills of optimism and resilience will know that these are not permanent emotions, but we will be sad, and feel grief at our losses.  The impermanence of life, and our happiness is part of why we treasure it. (more…)

“Change your thoughts and you change your world.” – Norman Vincent Peale (1898 – 1993)

A behavior change that lasts is everyone’s hope, whether it is to quit smoking, lose weight or change vocabulary around the children.  Too many diet books, stop smoking articles and other behavior changing materials run short on the most important portion of the process, in my opinion.

They say “becoming aware of the problem” is the crucial step in behavior change, but I’d argue that the nearly forgotten aspect of planning is the key to making changes last.  While I don’t advocate remaining in the planning stage for a long time, it is a step that marshals resources and builds the flexible skills needed when the action begins.

One example of planning for behavior change is simply finding something else to do instead.  One patient came in to a session bubbling with the happy news that she had lost six pounds by stopping smoking.  “I had always feared that quitting cigarettes would bring a weight gain, but I actually lost!”  It turns out that her plan to quit smoking included a morning walk with her neighbor during the time when she’d normally be smoking her first cigarette of the day.  Their three-mile walk got her home just in time to shower and be out the door to work, leaving no time to pause for a cigarette break.  She knew she’d miss breakfast and be hungry after walking, so she began preparing a morning snack that could be taken with her to the office, and she did this in the evening when her usual pattern would be to have a cigarette after dinner.  Over the course of a single month, she saw progress in two areas instead of just one.  Her planning paid off in ways that happily surprised her. (more…)

All that really belongs to us is time; even he who has nothing else has that. – Baltasar Gracian

Who hasn’t been approached by a friend, a colleague or family member with the question, “Hey, do you have a minute?”  If your experience is anything like mine, you know that this interruption is unlikely to last just sixty seconds, but you also want to be helpful so you say, “Yeah, sure, what’s up?”

So often we agree to give our attention, but loan it only for an instant.  I know that when I’m interrupted, or simply sidetracked, from something I’m pursuing at the moment, whether it is my class preparations or a ball game on television, I will agree to that “minute” of distraction, but I continue to think about the task or activity I’ve left behind.  We all do this to some degree, of course, but as I’ve thought more about gratitude, mindfulness, and the values of positive psychology, I’ve come to realize that what we have to give one another is the gift of our time.  Sometimes I don’t want to be interrupted, which is a little like saying,  “I am the center of my universe and I’m not giving up my hold on that!”  Seriously, it seems that actually paying attention to another person is, in some way, recognition that I am NOT the center of the universe, and that someone else may have something of importance to share, or do, or contribute.  Novel idea, eh? (more…)

Greetings! I’m glad you found the website for Mechanics of Change.  Here you will discover information about human behavior and experience that will make you think—and think differently.

As your host, let me introduce myself: I am Mark A. Hurst, Ph.D. a licensed clinical psychologist in private practice in Olympia, Washington.  I’m also privileged to be faculty in Psychology at The Evergreen State College, and the combination of these two experiences provide a great opportunity for me to stay up-to-the-minute on the field of human interaction. (more…)